In A Rut!!!!!!!!

As the delivery guy handed me my pizza last night, I looked into the box to see the same old pizza I have ordered for the last 2 years!!!!!! Yes, same old meaty feast pizza with pineapple. In that very moment as I sat in front of the tv to indulge in this cholesterol delicacy, it occurred to me, I am in a rut!!! If I was among the rich and famous with hundreds of stalkers, tracking me would probably be the easiest task on earth. I order the same pizza, from the same restaurant, in the same size and at the same time on Sunday nights!!!! Ohhhh my!!!!!! It doesn't end there I have recently upgraded to a routine morning :( wake up, jump into a warm shower, as the coffee brews, have my coffee as I check my social networks and local news plus the weather. And leave the house all done same time everyday!!!!  Thank God the rest of the day varies due to external factors. So I carefully put my pizza away, and made a list, yes on a paper next to my dressing mirror. Everyday I will do something new and write it down for future gloating. And ladies and gentlemen I am happy to report that today I had coffee before my shower :)) if u are a self- confessed stuck-in-a-rut, scare no more !!! Lets write the new things down as we stride out of this rut and see you on this page at the end of this year for celebrations. Have a rut free October!! This is how we are LIVING OUR LIVES!!

Live your Life

"LIVE EACH DAY LIKE ITS YOUR LAST." U have probably heard that statement so many times it  makes your ears ache. Well, so have I. I have heard it so many times but I have never really listened, until today. Yes it has hit me finally, woke up to an email regarding news of a departed one, through a tragic road accident. The news Shook every part of me, I was scared to say the least. It got me thinking , have i lived my life? Have i done all I would want to do at this point or do i wait for tomorrow, when I have more money, when I have more time, when I am of the right weight, when I have met the right person. People, i need write no more. LIVE YOUR LIFE NOW!!!!!!!!!!! lets not wait for the 'better time'.

The big debate

Kind regards from the Eastern Cape . After debating with my friends for almost an hour about this, I decided to bring it to a larger audience. It’s all about dowry or what is known as ‘lobola ’ in south Africa. Well I have no problem with its context in South Africa as such, as it is used for the white wedding apparently. My problem is in Kenya where it disappears into thin air soon after it lands in the hands of the in-laws. And no, my culture and morals have not been eroded but how does one put a price on a human being? Well South Africa included too in this case. Why not let the couple decide how big a wedding they want instead of putting a tag on it. I have never wrapped my head around the negotiating or should I say bargaining for another human being. It feels like one is being sold. Parents, when you put a price tag on your daughter and they spend all they have in the dowry to please you, do you honestly expect them to go live happily as I would imagine you would want them to? Before you nod yes, think of it this way, after they have left all they have in your ‘shop’, how do you expect her to live in a dream house soon after the wedding? Doesn’t this occur to parents as they demand a cheque?

Here is my thinking, if dowry is meant to thank the parents, how about we let the gentlemen decide to bring that which they can comfortably afford. Then, that is a gift. But when you put a tag on your daughter, it becomes business. Gone are the days people lived on hunting and gathering. Probably then one would be asked to show his prowess by bringing a beehive. Running around trying to gather 50000R is no way to show prowess!!!! If you think demanding dowry is justified, please make me understand. Because that is no way I want to live my life!!

A letter to the brothers

Yesterday I had a very interesting conversation with a friend of mine who is in a long distance relationship, which got me thinking if men really know what girls want. Men want to think that we girls are high maintenance while on the contrary we are very simple complexities. What does a girl want? One answer; the simple things in life. Your expensive dinners and jewelry might have some impact but the two paramount things girls thrive on are time and an ear. We need someone to care enough to listen to our little nothings and our thoughts. We might not admit it often but we want to be constantly on your mind. A simple ‘I miss you’ or ‘thinking about you’ text or note, might go to greater lengths than a 5 star roof top dinner!!!! Especially long distance relationships. In your physical absence gentlemen, don’t be fooled by ‘distance makes the heart grow fonder’. Maybe it does. But out of sight + out of constant communication = out of heart. Sad but true. Do not expect to have a priority in someone’s life if u not making an effort to make it so. Enough said. So brothers as u live your life, have that in mind!!!!!!

Borrowed page

       

Today I will share with you something I read and found very interesting:

‘Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond imagination. It is our light more than our darkness which scares us. We ask ourselves – who are we to be brilliant, beautiful, talented, and fabulous. But honestly, who are you to not be so?  You are a child of God; small games do not work in this world. For those around us to feel peace, it is not example to make ourselves small. We were born to express the glory of God that lives in us. It is not in some of us; it is in all of us. While we allow our light to shine, we unconsciously give permission for others to do the same. When we liberate ourselves from our own fears, simply our presence may liberate others.’

Marianne Williamson

Snappy Trips

I hurried out of the cab into the windy coastal rain and reached into my purse; that I held close to my chest,  for my keys which I dropped in my hurry. I Grabbed them quickly and as I entered my backyard missed the very stepped I had taken every day!!! I almost fell!!!! Not from a clumsy walk mind you. Nope, I was rushing to catch my favourite soap!!!! Ridiculous right? Why on earth do we girls insist on watching these soaps, while we know very well how it’s going to end!!! And it’s like a disease we catch in the shortest time possible. I have hardly been here 3 months and already I am almost breaking my neck over what I now fondly call ‘my favourite soap’. Worse still, the soap took a turn that just ruined my night. And to think those people are getting paid to do their work, and here I am running from mine to watch them work!!! And almost breaking my neck while at it!!! But again we are living our lives right?

Timeline

Greetings, good people! Today technology caught up with snappy and yes she is technically challenged I have to admit; as Knight mentions countless times. So finally I did change my facebook outlook to the timeline view and even had a chance to edit what I wanted to stay on my wall and what I wanted out. How awesome is that? As I scrolled down the timeline, it was like traveling back in time. I saw how quickly and swiftly my life has taken unexpected turns. I couldn’t help mixed feelings of anger, joy, regret, achievement and even anticipation plus euphoria. It was a moment of reality check which prior to this, I had never done. So I thought to myself, if life did have a timeline and we were given a chance to edit some scenes, what impact would it have on us? And would we jump to the idea or shy as far away as possible from the slightest chance of doing so? Just a thought .